Social media can be used in promoting a business, staying connected with all your favorite bands or celebrities, and staying connected with friends from high school. It can be used as your own personal photo album. Teachers use it as a learning tool to engage their students, and it can also be used as a dating tool. One can have the option of meeting someone on Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin, or any other social media site .
Instead of the bouquet of roses and box of chocolates, some people are just as happy with sweet tweets, pokes, and electronic gifts. Psychology junior Daniella Bogorad canceled her dinner reservation for two for an online messaging date with a mystery man who is now her boyfriend. Her reason for turning to social media for her romantic relationships, may be a similar reason people go out to a club after a breakup.
“I had just gotten out of a two year relationship, and I was looking for some fun. I found fun. I found another long-term relationship which I wasn’t expecting and neither was he, but it’s something I wouldn’t change.”
- Daniella Bogorad
Bogorad says the butterflies in her stomach are still there it’s just now they’re from online messages or tweets. She says, the initial mystery is still there when getting to know someone on a social media site, it just comes with less pressure.
“Definitely less pressure because you’re already kind of telling them what you’re about what you want instead of meeting someone at a party and not knowing. When you’re already on the site you know what people want.”
- Daniella Bogorad
Some people see that meeting on a social media site is not normal, but Bogorad is proud to share her social media love story. She found her perfect match whom she can connect with on all levels.
“It’s a story we like to tell, that we’re proud of. It’s different, but we like it we like telling people how we met. He gave me a jewelry box for our 6th month anniversary, and he engraved it with ‘who knew destiny was only one click away,’ and so I thought it was really cute.”
- Daniella Bogorad
Social media can be used as a tool in seeking a potential mate like it has for Bogorad, or it can be used to strengthen a relationship. Mass Comm and Psychology junior, Eric Munoz, uses social media by posting love statuses, flirty tweets, and photos with his girlfriend on Instagram.
“As my relationship stands now it’s hard to see her alot so I like to portray how I feel and how I miss her through Facebook, Twitter, Instagram just any ways I can say hey I’m thinking about her.”
Social media can have such a grip on what we post, tag, follow, and befriend. Munoz doesn’t feel the pressure to update every status, but does it because he likes to share to everyone he is connected with how much his girlfriend means to him.
“I like to tell people what I’m thinking a lot and about 90% of the time I’m thinking about her. It’s all good things so it’s no pressure at all.”
Some people may argue that relationships should be kept separate from social media sites because they’re way too personal. They may also argue that social media causes unnecessary drama within a relationship due to the photos, friends getting too friendly, ex’s befriending, or comments; whatever the issue is. On the other hand, some believe that social media can help a relationship if you go about it in the correct manner. Munoz shares how it can do both, helping and damaging a relationship.
“I wouldn’t say I got around, but I have a lot of female friends. I met her and I kind of changed a lot of things and a lot of my female friends didn’t like that. I’m lucky to be with someone who is very caring, very understanding so she kind of gets it. She does blow her top every once in awhile when a random girl is like ‘Hey, I miss you boo,’ but other than that we’re okay… we’re alright.”
For the people that still think meeting someone on a social media site is strange, and believe that it’s impossible to have a serious relationship with someone just by sending messages… well, Munoz may change your opinion.
“I think it’s great, I think it’s the best way to go. I like the fact that you can jump on, have a conversation with somebody, be yourself without hiding who you are in the pictures or what not, but be yourself openly to somebody and that breaks a social tension. Most people feel rejected if someone is like ‘No, I really don’t want to talk to this person,’ or ‘Hey, how about a drink’ and their like ‘No thank you.’ On social media you just send a comment ‘Hey, great picture. You look great in this,’ and start a conversation and something snowballs from there.”
Andrea Rodriguez, KTSW News.