The thought of rooming in with your best friend has crossed many minds, making the situation exciting and eventful. To others, it’s a struggle at the beginning when not knowing how or what actions to take in some circumstances the first year living together.
Junior Wildlife Biology Major Loretta Montemayer had a similar experience involving her boyfriend Ryan Kristek and Senior Communications Major Karen Chuang.
“ When we first moved in we weren’t as close as I wanted it to be because I was always with Ryan and when I was home I just wanted my own time.”
However not many disagreements occurred between Montemayor and Chuang when living together. The choice they made was to be mature enough to admit you’re wrong or talk about the situation if you really want to make it work. Montemayor made a very good point, when it comes to an argument most of the time it’s your emotions getting in the way of actually being civil.
SB “Sometimes we clashed but we’re very good about getting over it and not letting the situation bother us, we realize that its just the emotions getting in the way.”
For others a way to not have any conflict at all is laying down some ground rules at the beginning just so no one’s feet will get stepped on. Junior Communications Major Tyler Jolly mentioned that his best friend and himself talked about some pet peeves they had right before they moved in and how to take criticism when told someone’s left a mess.
“Before we moved in we laid it all out on what we didn’t like with the other person. You have to be mature enough to realize when its constructive criticism.”
Jolly’s roommate Junior Business administration major Jonathan Ottinger, admitted that if he lived with someone he did not know, he would not take them seriously and only take some of what they ask of him into some consideration.
“For Instance I dip tobacco and Tyler said don’t leave your spit cups around, but if it was a random person I wouldn’t care what he said I would just do it anyways.”
Having your own schedule helped Chuang and Jolly out when it came to taking a break from their best friends. Not always being together can certainly help the heart grow fonder.
“We would Suffocate each other then it just would not work.”
- Karen Chaung
Rooming with someone you don’t know was not their first option due to their past experiences with random roommate selection. Being comfortable around the apartment was a priority for both sets of roommates since a person’s true colors show when you move in with them.
“You really don’t know know someone until you live with them.”
Living with your best friend might not be your first choice but for many others its a safe choice.
“If you’re too identical to your best friend then troubles might happen but if you can understand each other, fix it, then get over it, everybody should be okay.”
Sierra Kind, KTSW News.
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